Do you ever feel as if your life is running on autopilot but you’re the passenger? Who’s driving, where are you heading and do you really care once you get there?
What’s happened to us, and how did we get here in the first place?
Well, let’s take a look back. We were children, we were told we had to get up, grow up, get educated and get a life of our own. With the pressure on, and the constant question of “What are you going to do with your life?” we scrambled. How were we to know what we wanted from our lives at 18 years old?
But somehow we plugged along. We found some course to follow, whether it was an education, a career, raising a family, or a combination of it all. We did it and we never looked back. Our days became jam packed with demands from everyone, except us.
So here we are, midlife. We may still be busy with everyone vying for our attention, but we are finally becoming aware that we need attention too, more specifically from ourselves.
We’ve begun to question our purpose, our passion our general excitement for life.
Whatever it is that has put you in this state of wonder, embrace it. You are not alone. The time has come to explore your passions and find the personal fulfillment you seek!
This is a very exciting time in your life. You are strong, confident, mature and independent. You can do anything you set your mind to achieving, now more than ever. Oh, and do you want to know the best part? You already have a cheering team! Just watch what happens when you state your new intentions to friends and family. You have so much more support than you realize!
Wondering what the first steps are? You guessed it! Make two lists. Your list will consist of the following…
1. Qualities within yourself that make you happy! This could include being adventurous, reflective, compassionate, humorous, creative, dramatic, carefree, organized, social, generous, cultured, athletic, contemplative, or even spontaneous. Your qualities can help define your passions, so think about how you see yourself, and how you think others see you. Just remember to be positive, this in an exploratory exercise to inspire you, not knock you down. You may even identify some characteristics you want to strengthen!
2. Activities you’ve always wanted to do! Think BIG! Rock climbing or hang gliding, performing at an open mic night or being in a play, participating in a triathlon or 5k, trying out a spin class or yoga, signing up for a pottery or painting class, learning how to scuba dive or sail, going for a black belt in tae kwon do, signing up for a series of writing, piano, acting or voice lessons, participating in a golf or tennis clinic, camping out, taking a class or even furthering your education with a degree. Whatever comes to your head write it down, you can pick and chose later.
Your goal here is to identify that which makes YOU happy so you can open new levels of joy within yourself. These are things YOU want to do, not your spouse, friends, family or children, but YOU!
Next step? Engage! Review your qualities and the activities you’ve listed and pick the top three things that excite you the most. This is where you will begin.
Sign up, call up and setup whatever you need to do as you begin this new adventure. Share your plans and your excitement with others. Who knows, you may inspire someone else.
Believe me, having become a personal trainer and an active blogger at 49 with two kids in college, one in high school and one in middle school, I know anything can be done! You just need to start.
This is your personal rebirth. Don’t be afraid and don’t hold back. If you feel a lump in your throat or a tickle in your belly, it’s nerves, and that’s not a bad thing! Your nervous energy is the little kid in you who’s excited for change and something new. This is perfect!
You are ready for this new phase in your life. Find your passion. Even if it begins as a hobby, or takes a few tries at different activities, there is something amazing out there for YOU. But you will never know if you don’t begin today.
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Thank you – Michelle